To anyone who lives with, works with, is friendly with or associated with an alcoholic, it's baffling, infuriating, frustrating, incomprehensible.And unfortunately, unless you have experienced addiction of some sort, it may stay that way. I struggled with alcohol, assorted drugs and tobacco, and at times even I find myself unable to fathom the behavior of some alcoholics.Ask a mental health professional about the disorder or read a book about the struggles people with alcoholism have faced to expand your knowledge. Be open about your concerns and hesitations about dating her. Share your story and why you have come to the meeting.
So — here are two examples from my personal life, but I’ve changed some details for the anonymity of my exes.The number of drinks he had per week were enough for his doctor to give him a handout on alcoholism, at which point he cut back to 14 drinks a week (the level on the handout before you’d be a “heavy drinker.”) After that, he insisted he was “fine” because he didn’t meet the medical definition for “heavy drinker,” and would get annoyed at me whenever I brought up his drinking.However, there were some weird clues — even from the beginning — that pointed to his drinking being more problematic than he admitted.For starters, he couldn’t stop drinking for a week.Even though the number of drinks he had may not have been “alcoholic” level drinking, clearly drinking was filling an emotional need for him to the point that he couldn’t go without it for even more than 2 or 3 days.Alcoholism is a serious issue which has the capacity to affect your life if you date someone with this problem.